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Advantages and Disadvantages for being a housewife without kids

Posted by Sailorgirlfriend.com on Sunday, May 5, 2013
I've been a housewife for the last 3.5 months and realized that there are many advantages and disadvantages for being a housewife without kids. We've been married for 6 months now and after my husband left the military when his term was over, we moved across country 4 months ago for a new adventure for his new job as a civilian. I had to leave my job behind as well.

At first I was scared about being home with just our dog while my husband was at work. I overcame that fear and it helps to have a big dog at home. Here are the advantages and disadvantages for being a housewife (with no kids):

Advantages to being a housewife
  • I have more time to work out. I'm in better shape now than when I was on my wedding day! Planning a wedding and working full time was so stressful and busy. I had to squeeze in time to work out and that stress wasn't making my body improve. I'm happy that I am looking good! As you know, stress decreases your work out effectiveness, which leads me to the next advantage.
  • I am less stressed out. Well, it's because I don't have work right now but I am looking and the truth is, because my husband makes enough to support the both of us, I'm not as stressed out to look for a job. I do look every day online and apply or send my resume to at least one company a week. The job choices here are limited since our town population is only 40,000 people. Work plays such a huge part of your life though. Because I am not working, I am so stress-free!
  • I have more time to play Words with Friends and take on new hobbies. I am addicted to online gaming. I admit it and being a housewife provides more leisure time to explore my hobbies, which leads to the next advantage.
  • I am cooking and we are eating healthier. Because I have the time to cook at home now, my husband and I are eating healthier and our overall health is good. We also save money on food because when we were both working, we would eat out a lot since we didn't have a lot of time. I always got home from the office later than he did from the navy base. I am not an expert on cooking yet but I am learning and my husband loves my food. He likes that immediately when he gets home, there's food waiting for him. I guess that leads to the next advantage.
  • My husband is happy with our marriage. This is so huge. I know all husbands are different but my husband really likes that I am home and taking care of our dog and house. I'm not Martha Stewart yet but I do laundry regularly, cook and clean our living space. It also makes it less stressful for him when he gets home because everything is in order in our shelter. 

Disadvantages to being a housewife

  • I'm unemployed and that is view as a negative trait to some people. So, I have to face society about this one. Two of the most common questions you get when you meet or see someone is "how is work" or "what do you do" and for me these are always awkward questions because I get insecure about not contributing to the workforce right now. I've always been going to school or working ever since I was in preschool and now for the first time in my life, I am doing neither. I don't want people to think that I'm dumb and can't find a job or aren't qualified. And once again, I am looking. 
  • It can get lonely. Thank goodness we have a dog. He is my best friend right now since we've just moved to a different state and I haven't made any new friends yet. My friends and I keep in touch regularly and I do have the treadmill to release some endorphins so I stay okay. However, every once in a while, I'll miss my friends who are 10 states away and wish I could just meet them for coffee. If I was working or going back to school, I may be able to make new friends.
  • It can get scary to get a knock on the door. When my husband is at work, it's just my dog and me at home. Luckily, our dog barks whenever there is a stranger walking close to our door so he alerts me. I just have this paranoia that without my husband, some guy can just barge in and I could be hold captive. Then I think about my protector; my dog.  He looks like he can shred anybody to pieces so that keeps me sane. I also have kitchen knives so I can be prepared. See how paranoid I am? 
  • I'm shopping online more than usual, which can be expensive. I have the time now to hop on the computer and just look at clothes and purses online and have been on a shopping binge. My husband doesn't mind it too much yet because he wants to keep me happy but he has been noticing that I am getting a lot of boxes in the mail. This can be costly so I have to keep my wallet in check and not buy as much. 

Well, overall there are more advantages for me as a housewife. The important advantage is that I'm healthier and in better shape which makes me very happy. Being happy with less stress can prolong your life tremendously and what is the point of life, if you're always going to be miserable?

I guess the trick is balance. I need to find a job I love so that it's not stressful and also make sure this job gives me time at home to cook and work out. I think instead of a full time job, I will be looking for a 20-30 hour a week job to keep me happy and my husband happy knowing that I can carry out housewife duties as well.

How is your housewife life treating you?


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Born and raised in San Diego, the publisher is a wife of a Navy veteran and has a passion for sharing knowledge and ideas to help other girlfriends, fiances and wives. She started this blog when she was still just a girlfriend of her sweet navy sailor. After dating for 1 year and 4 months, the sailor proposed to her and they got married 7 months later. He got out of the military 3 months after they wed, when his contract ended. Her husband served in the navy for 10 years.




 

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