Now that I am 4 months pregnant, I realized I need to be prepared for people trying to touch my pregnant belly as my stomach gets more noticeably bigger. I traveled to California for a wedding last week and my father used his two fingers to poke at my belly. I hope that it's not weird that I found it disgusting that he did that to me. I'm not a touchy feely type of a person and never had an affectionate relationship with my father so I was really surprised that he even thought of doing that. I told him I don't like other men touching my stomach and pulled away and he just laughed hysterically thinking it's a joke. Well it's not a joke. I don't like it. I feel violated.
The only man I want to touch my pregnant stomach or non-pregnant stomach is my husband. Why do people feel like they are at liberty to touch my stomach now that I am pregnant? It is still my stomach. They are not touching the baby; they are touching me.
I read some forums online and discovered some ideas on how to make your point clear; like reciprocating and touching their belly so they know how it feels like or just slapping their hand away. I like the slapping the hand away idea to make it a clear point that I don't like it. I am repulsed by it. I just have to make sure my reflex is fast enough. I feel like if they are going to be rude to me then I have the right to defend myself, even if it comes off as rude to them. I sure hope my father in law and uncles aren't waiting in line to touch my stomach. I might have to bust out some karate moves.
I don't mind if other women touch my belly. It's just other men who are not my husband! Hands off perverts!
Born and raised in San Diego, the publisher is a wife of a Navy veteran and has a passion for sharing knowledge and ideas to help other girlfriends, fiances and wives.
She started this blog when she was still just a girlfriend of her sweet navy sailor. After dating for 1 year and 4 months, the sailor proposed to her and they got married 7 months later. He got out of the military 3 months after they wed, when his contract ended. Her husband served in the navy for 10 years.